Parenting during stressful life events:  7 things to remember. 


This week has been a whirlwind.  We planned out our dinners on Sunday, made it through school drop off on Monday and I even got a walk in at the lake with my friend Emily!  It seemed that the week was starting off nicely (aside from an extremely hard drop off at school Monday morning– oh Mondays.)  Then we got a text to come to the hospital an hour away to see a family member.  The week has been an emotional rollercoaster.  I’ve found it extremely hard to parent, get my work done, be there for my husband and also have my own worries and sadness on top of everything.  Thankfully my mom helped us out and things seem to be on the upswing.  Well, aside from the ton of work I need to get done that is not currently getting done because my hospital wifi won’t connect to my work desktop! ahhhhhh!! stress.

I guess since I can’t do my actual work I will share a few thoughts I’ve had on making it through a stressful time.

1- Take it as it comes.  There is no need for speculation in hard times, it is going to be how it is.  Simply making it from one moment to the next is all that is expected of you.  Going with the flow is kind of necessary.

2- Vent.  I don’t know how many friends I’ve vented to this week.  I just needed to tell someone how I felt.  My fears, my sadness, being overwhelmed.  I needed a listening ear, and thankfully, I’ve had quite a few.

3- Kids.  I think it is easy to think in situations like this, ahhhh HOW am I going to possibly handle my children right now?  There is so much expected.  We have to travel and stay up late and not have real meals…but they need routines.  It is especially hard to have a little one with food allergies (that means no pick up McDonalds) and another one with serious anxiety and OCD.  BUT…this week I’ve not focused on these things.  I’ve had help from my mom, offers to help from my friends, and family members that helped calm them and keep them entertained.  Kids are go with the flow, especially when you take the time to appreciate them, comfort them and love them.  Its great for them, and really great for you.  Kids can always make you smile and always make you laugh.  They are such blessings.

4- Keeping the kids entertained.  If you have to take the kids to the hospital… it is important to pack an entertainment bag!  My kids are 4 and 1.  I packed blocks, books, kumon writing books, pencils, toy cars, the ipad, chargers (so necessary), snacks, a baby doll for my little girl, etc.  For the most part, they stayed pretty entertained.  Do not, I repeat, do not go to the hospital without these things haha.  You think you’ll be there for an hour or two but you are there for 6.  It happens.  Be prepared.

5- Ask for help.  If you need help with anything, ask.  It takes a village and your village is there to help you when you need them.  Whether it be with work (which I’ve definitely needed help with– and amazing coworkers have stepped up to help with that), childcare, or running errands.  Sometimes you can’t do it all and you need that helping hand.  Reach for it.

6- Prayer.  Spending time to reflect on the events of the day and pray that all will be taken care of and trusting that, is essential.  God has shown us miracles this week and we are so grateful.  Prayer changes things, and us.

7- Sleep.  Don’t be dumb and stay up late catching up on TV.  (guilty.)  Sleep really is essential.  Sitting in waiting rooms isn’t physically exhausting, but stress is very mentally exhausting.  Your body wants you to sleep… when you get the time, do it.  Seriously… do it.  Your body needs to relax and recharge.

Through a very stressful week I’ve found peace in quiet moments, tickle fights with my kids, sweet embraces from my husband, and the love that is so present in serious times.  Family is so very special.  I am grateful for mine.

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Quick Tip Tuesday: EWG.org 


Okay so- Quick Tip Tuesday is actually Wednesday this week. Let me tell you why…

I sat down to my computer last night to blog and I just couldn’t. I was exhausted. (The title from this blog didn’t come out of nowhere lol.)  I’ve been dealing with some emotional stuff lately and perhaps I’ll blog about that when I’m ready. Just know that it is hard to be a mommy. It is the most rewarding thing in life I believe, but it comes with its challenges.  I wouldn’t trade it for anything…but I have my moments like everyone.  Thankfully I had a good therapy session this morning and felt rejuvenated. So here we go…

The tip today is really a recommendation for a really great website! I mentioned it in my previous post.  Environmental Working Group: Skin Deep  This website is fantastic, especially right before sunscreen season! (Well, every season should be sunscreen season, but you know what I mean).

This website allows you to research all of your cosmetic products to see the environmental impact and health risks associated with them! It gives each item a rating and breaks down each ingredient. It tells you how dangerous the ingredient is and how it could affect you and/or the environment. Every year they release their list of recommended sunscreens for children and I consult it every year before buying more.

There is so much to learn from this website.  I have referenced it for years and it has made me a more educated consumer. I feel so much better knowing exactly what I’m putting on my body and what I’m exposing my babies to!  The truth is…there are so many harmful products and exposures for ourselves and our kids. Their little systems are still developing and I want to do the best I can to expose them to as few chemicals as possible (within reason!).  Check it out!

Quick Tip Tuesday: Honey! 


So we’ve been battling strep throat and a cough in our house for nearly a month. It has been a LONG March. We’re all on antibiotics and while my husband and I get fantastic horse pills for 10 days, the kids have to deal with liquid antibiotics. My daughter is on Amoxicillin and I think all kids really love the taste of that stuff.  This hasn’t changed in 20 years. My brother even smelled the bottle and had a bit of nostalgia ha! He remembered liking the taste of it as a kid. Unfortunately, my son is allergic so he is on another antibiotic.  An antibiotic with a terrible taste.  He has flat out refused to take it.   I felt like I tried everything. I can’t blame him really, the taste is truly awful.

After trying and failing I called the pediatrician to see what I could hide this stuff in. They suggested whipped cream or chocolate syrup. I had neither. I had to get creative.  I opened my pantry and reached for the honey. I thought it would be perfect. It’s thick, sweet and has a strong taste. Fortunately, it worked great! I mixed a nickel sized dollop of honey in with my son’s meds and he gladly took it! No drama! It was almost too easy.

Also, honey is a great natural remedy for cold/cough/sore throat.  It has antibacterial, antifungal and antiviral properties. When my son starts with a cough I make him avocado honey toast, yogurt with honey or just give him a spoonful of honey! He loves it!

Yesterday was the last day of antibiotics and he has no idea he even had them.  I highly suggest trying this if you’re running out of ideas moms. Pick your battles and good luck!