Dear people with something to say to someone but no desire to say it specifically to that someone,
Hi. Thanks for reading my open letter. I bet you loved reading the title of this and seeing it was an open letter. It is just so exciting to see someone gripe about something and send the words scattering out into the world like embers from a nagging, screaming volcano. But this open letter is slightly different. I am here to say that I am SO TIRED of open letters.
“An open letter to the teacher that hurt my child’s feelings,” “An open letter to the parent that judged my parenting style,” “An open letter to the doctor that didn’t believe I had a condition.” AHHH!! What are you DOING? Why is this a time that you write an open letter? If a teacher hurts your child’s feelings, SET. UP. A. CONFERENCE. Do this for yourself and for your child. Don’t go and spread the business around Internet land, sit back with a cup of coffee and wait for the likes to roll in. Don’t feel justified by supporters in the comments section. You don’t need those things. You NEED to take your struggle to the school and talk it out with your kid’s teacher. Settle it and move on.
These open letters are driving me insane. Open letters are just a way to share a story
complain about something with strangers without having them ask you to share your story. It is perfect way to put your personal business on display for a hungry public to eat it up instantly. If we as a society love one thing.,. it is getting in other people’s business. You write your open letters because we’re all willing to sit back and read them– ready to take everything you say at 100% truth and we cannot WAIT to share our two cents. We want to join this narrative. Your anger is our anger, your truth is our truth. But why? What are we getting out of this? What are YOU getting out of this?
If another parent judges your parenting… you’re going to go to the Internet and cuss them out for it? The Internet?! …But why? Is the parent going to see it and run to you apologizing for their criticism? Is anything going to change? Is it going to change how you feel? If you have something to say to another parent why not just say it. They obviously felt they could say it to you. Take your hurt feelings, your anger, your thoughts… channel them appropriately and address the offender, not the audience.
Contrary to what reality TV likes us to believe, everyone’s life is not a drama. We do not need to know every detail. We don’t need to know that Cindy in Utah had anxiety that her doctor refused to acknowledge and therefore she went 2 years untreated. Yes, that is sad. It is. I am not completely unfeeling– but that is Cindy in Utah’s business… right? That is something to work out with her doctor. I understand the need to get the word out about certain issues, but jeez. Our brains are overloaded with information. There is a suggested number of social relationships people should limit themselves to and even though this is debatable, it feels so true. I cannot take hearing so many individual stories from 328917 different people. Especially from those that aren’t willing to do anything more than write an open letter.
Now that that is out in the open, I will say this. I get the open letter appeal. I get that it is fun to rant. (After all, I am doing it in this post). I get that you feel empowered to write your feelings and share them with the world and you SHOULD. BUT— when I read these open letters I can’t help but feel that it is just a journal entry that you are submissively trying to expose the offender to (or maybe you aren’t at all. You just love to rant). I think that is why these open letters need to stop. Don’t write an open letter– take your thoughts and stand up for yourself. Stand up for your kid. Go out and change your world, don’t just write about it for us. We can’t help you.
Someone who thinks we should get over this open letter fad.